An Adoption Story - Gratitude

Posted by Velleta Scott on 11/15/17 11:14 AM

An Adoption Story

Gratitude is what I feel towards Gladney and Superkids when I look at my 14 year old son. It has been just a year now since we adopted him. He was 13 ½ years old and had been on the shared list for years, available for adoption, but lost in the crowd.  He had virtually no chance of finding a family.

Theo Adoption StoryWe weren’t looking for him either; we had applied to Gladney to adopt an older girl. As we waded through the paperwork, we followed the latest Superkids trip to China out of curiosity but without any expectation of finding our child on their blog. However, one child stood out; one child whose intelligence and curiosity seemed to beg us to look further. He was in a wheelchair and his file was 8 years old. We live in the country with a two story house and the nearest paved surface is a half mile away. This surely wasn’t meant to be.

And yet –I couldn’t forget him. He was 13 and I knew what his future held as someone in a wheelchair in China. He would never have an independent life regardless of his abilities, probably never live outside an institution. His only real hope for a future was to be adopted, and he had less than a year left.

We called Gladney and spoke to a member of the Superkids team. There wasn’t really any new medical information that they could share, but what they could tell us was that he was very intelligent and that he understood what adoption was. He had asked over and over for them to help him find a family. When asked what kind of family, it didn’t matter. He just wanted to live somewhere where he could go outside sometimes, because he rarely got to experience the outdoors in his institution. When we heard that, our hearts turned over. The old medical report didn’t matter, the unknowns didn’t matter, and the need to redo our house for a wheelchair didn’t matter. He was going to live where he could go outside whenever he wanted.

The day we met Theo, he rolled right up to us and asked when we were leaving for America. He was disappointed that it would be another week. He left China with us with no tears, ready to meet the rest of his family and see his new life in America. He had been waiting for so many years and had seen so many of his friends leave. Now it was finally his turn.

He has thrown himself into life in our family. We have adopted seven children and he has had the easiest adjustment of any of them by far. There is nothing he won’t try. Communication was rough for a while, but Google Translate got us through a lot. His sense of humor makes me laugh every day. He enjoys helping me fix dinner and going to the store. He spends a lot of time hanging out on the porch, marveling at the butterflies and hummingbirds in our flower bed. I have found him many times in the yard, just gazing out over the hills, enjoying the outdoors as he so wanted to do.

I have heard so many people tell me they would be afraid to adopt an older child. Yes, there have been challenges, but his adoption has been easier than any of the others we did with younger children. Theo was old enough to understand the process of adoption and to understand what staying in China meant. Although he was understandably nervous, there was no hesitation. I am in awe of his courage, in unhesitatingly leaving his old life behind for the chance of a better one.

I am so thankful he is here. I constantly get to see so many firsts in his life…

Adoption Story by GladneyHis first time to visit a zoo.

His first time to cook something himself.

His first time to have therapy.

His first time to ride a horse.

His first time to have a cat sleep on his bed.

His first time to go to public school.

His first time to go camping.

His first time to see mountains, deserts, and oceans.

His first time to have someone to call Grandma and Grandpa.

His first time to see a hummingbird at the feeder outside his window.

His first time to visit an amusement park.

His first time to garden.

His first time to go to basketball camp.

His first time to grill hamburgers.

His first time to have swimming lessons.

His first time to have surgery that may allow him to walk.

His first time to have a mother and a father tuck him into bed.

His first time to have a family.

His first time to have a future that is unbounded by his physical limitations.

I am so grateful for all of these firsts – and for Superkids, because it would not have happened without them.

Thank you.

By Velleta Scott, Gladney Mom

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** Note:  This is one family’s unique and beautiful adoption story!  Gladney encourages all parents who are considering adopting an older child to speak with many families who have gone through the process to gain a broad understanding of the realities, both good and challenging.  Specialized pre-adoption training is required for families adopting older children.  ** 

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