Adoption is often portrayed as a joyful new beginning, but for many adoptees and birth parents, it also carries layers of loss, grief, and unresolved trauma. Experiences like early separation, disrupted attachment, or difficult adoption circumstances can leave an imprint that affects emotions, relationships, and self-perception long into adulthood.

Even when the mind tries to move forward, the body remembers. Triggers—such as an unanswered text, a challenging conversation, or a significant life milestone—can resurface painful emotions seemingly out of nowhere. This is where Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) can help.

Unlike traditional therapy, EMDR does not require an individual to retell their trauma in detail. Instead, it helps the brain process past experiences in a way that removes their emotional intensity, allowing individuals to move forward with greater peace, resilience, and emotional freedom.

At the Gladney Center for Adoption, our specialized therapists use EMDR to help individuals affected by adoption-related trauma heal at their own pace, in a safe and structured way.

Why Does Adoption Trauma Need a Different Approach?

Traditional talk therapy often focuses on understanding past experiences through discussion, but for many adoptees and birth parents, trauma is stored in a deeper, more instinctive part of the brain.

When an event is too overwhelming—such as the loss of a biological connection or early life instability—the brain may store the memory in a fragmented way, keeping the emotions raw and unresolved. This can show up in unexpected ways:

• A young adoptee struggling with an overwhelming fear of abandonment
• An adult adoptee feeling anxious in relationships without knowing why
• A birth parent experiencing deep guilt or grief that resurfaces in waves
• An adoptive parent noticing their child reacting strongly to situations that don’t seem threatening

Because adoption-related trauma is often pre-verbal or deeply ingrained, talking alone isn’t always enough. EMDR helps by reprocessing these difficult emotions on a neurological level, removing their power and allowing for healing.

How EMDR Helps Adoptees, Birth Parents, and Families

EMDR therapy works by helping the brain "unstick" painful memories, allowing emotions to be processed in a healthier way. It has been extensively studied and proven effective for PTSD, anxiety, depression, and other trauma-related struggles.

For Adoptees:

• Helps process early separation trauma and loss
• Reduces chronic anxiety, relationship insecurity, and self-doubt
• Strengthens identity and emotional stability
• Eases stress linked to unknown or difficult birth history

For Birth Parents:

• Addresses grief, loss, and complex emotions tied to placement
• Helps reduce shame and self-judgment
• Supports healing in open or closed adoption relationships

For Adoptive Parents:

• Increases understanding of how past trauma affects behavior
• Teaches strategies to support a child’s emotional regulation
• Helps navigate attachment challenges with greater patience and connection

What Happens in an EMDR Session?

If the idea of therapy feels overwhelming, EMDR offers an alternative. Instead of talking at length about painful memories, individuals are guided through a structured process that allows the brain to reprocess distressing events without becoming overwhelmed.

A typical session involves:

1. Identifying the Root Cause: A therapist helps identify specific memories, triggers, or emotions that feel unresolved.

2. Bilateral Stimulation: Using guided eye movements, rhythmic tapping, or auditory cues, the therapist activates the brain’s natural healing process.

3. Reprocessing the Experience: While focusing on a memory, the brain begins to file it away in a healthier way—shifting it from an overwhelming experience to something that no longer holds power over emotions.

4. Creating a New Emotional Narrative: As distress lessens, individuals can form new, healthier beliefs about themselves and their story.

For example:

• "I was abandoned" → "I am valued and worthy of love."
• "I made the wrong choice" → "I acted out of love and did the best I could."

This neurological shift allows healing to happen without reliving the trauma over and over again.

Why EMDR at Gladney?

At the Gladney Center for Adoption, we recognize that adoption trauma is real, and healing takes a compassionate, personalized approach. Our therapists are trained in EMDR and other adoption-competent therapies, ensuring that our clients receive:

• Specialized care tailored to adoption-related trauma
• A safe space where adoptees and birth parents feel understood
• Tools that go beyond therapy sessions to support long-term healing

Our counseling centers in Fort Worth and Houston provide a place for individuals to reclaim their emotional well-being and move forward without being weighed down by the past.

Take the Next Step Toward Healing

If painful memories or emotions related to adoption feel overwhelming, EMDR therapy can help reprocess them so they no longer control your life. Healing is possible, and you don’t have to do it alone.

Call 817-672-9581 today to schedule an appointment at our Fort Worth or Houston locations or email us at counseling@gladney.org

Visit Gladney’s Counseling Center to learn more.