This year, my thoughts of fatherhood are intertwined with the concept of sonship. What does it mean to be a son (or daughter)? Being a father is about the relationship. The same is true for being a son. Just as my father’s relationship with me defines him as a father, my relationship with him is what makes me his son.
|The crew on my birthday|
As I was putting my son to bed one night recently he asked me something to the effect, “Daddy why did you adopt me?” If you have an adoption story you have likely heard or will hear this question many times. I have answered this question before but this time I gave it a different thought. See we had also just come off our third adoption and I kind of sensed the question is really more about why did you do this or need to do this?
So I told my son as honestly as I could that we did not need to adopt him or his sisters to his surprise. As I explained, because when you need something it is more of an act of instinct, or survival so the satisfaction in the act is limited. No, when I thought about his question, I smiled and told him, “Buddy, I wanted you!” I chased after you with all the love of my heart for you and your sisters. All the long nights of paperwork, and worry. All the driving around and chasing the next authentication or deadline, was not something I needed to do but I wanted to do.
I wanted and chased after all my children as one who loves with reckless abandonment until that day when I had my children in my arms and peace settled into the deepest part of my soul. That moment happened a year ago last Father’s day, after a long trip to bring home my precious daughter, we just happened to have Father’s day weekend as our first weekend home. As we sat around the table having lunch, an overwhelming feeling hit me and turned to my wife and said, “This is right, this is what we were meant to be as a family”.
My little ones, my loves, you completed me that Father’s Day and every Father’s Day for all time.
- Written by a 3x Gladney dad, Dwight Richmond
Are you ready for some baby boy cuteness in your day. Prepare to lose your heart!
Leonard's file was completed back in 2016 and he has been waiting for a family since then. He is now 7 years old. We met him several times, the last time being in October 2016. He is such a handsome little guy! We have requested an update and will let you know when we get new pictures.
Over in our private Taiwan Facebook group (be sure to join for pictures and videos we can't share publicly!) we asked for help to give this little guy an advocacy name. Alec was the clear favorite of the 3 names we asked you to choose from, so today we are introducing Alec!
Adam is a handsome 7 year old boy whose favorite subject is PE, especially running. He likes to do puzzles and is described as creative and obedient. This sweet little guy is very considerate of his foster mom and very attached to her.
Avril came into the room giggling when we met her last month. I don't know what she thought was funny, but she was covering her little mouth with her hand and giggling. It was absolutely adorable.
We have met Lyle several times. The last time was in October of 2016. We recently decided to check up on some of "our" kids that we have met to see if they are on still waiting for families. Lyle is one of the children who is still waiting.
Amelia is one of the children we met for the first time when we were in Taiwan recently. And what a sweet girl! She is 9 years old and I had such a great time helping her make a headband and put on makeup! She was super sweet and excited about it then when she went into the other room and talked to Mary she said one of her favorite things is putting on makeup. How sweet is that?!